Healing, Presence, and Dosage

Hello, beautiful sacred souls. 🌸

In today’s post, I want to explore a subtle but essential topic in healing: presence, healing, and dosage—and how to know what your nervous system truly needs.

Many teachings emphasize presence or quick-fix self-help strategies, but the truth is that the same practice can be healing at one moment and overwhelming at another. The key question isn’t “Should I heal or be present?” It’s: What does my nervous system have capacity for right now?

Presence as Containment

Presence, as described in many spiritual traditions, is a form of containment. It means noticing your thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations without needing to fix or analyze them. This practice allows your nervous system to rest, especially when you are:

• Overstimulated
• Emotionally flooded
• Tired, sick, or depleted

In these moments, plain presence can be medicine. It’s not avoidance—it’s pacing. It signals to your system that it is safe, supported, and can simply exist without pressure to solve or process everything immediately.

How to Know When Presence Is Enough

Some signs that containment is sufficient include:

• Your body settles within minutes
• Thoughts naturally slow down or stop repeating
• You feel grounded and less triggered afterward

When these occur, presence alone is enough, and you don’t need to push yourself to dig deeper. Sometimes, rest is the most powerful form of healing.

When Healing, Not Containment, Is Needed

However, there are moments when presence alone isn’t sufficient. Your body may signal this if:

• Thoughts persist or intensify
• You feel low-grade anxiety or unease
• There is a sense of holding everything together internally

Recurring thoughts or tension often indicate that a boundary hasn’t been acknowledged, a need hasn’t been named, or a part of you is asking for attention. In these cases, gentle healing practices become necessary—but dosage matters.

The Principle of Healing Dosage

Healing requires the right timing and dosage:

• Containment: Can be practiced daily
• Healing practices: Best in 5–15 minute increments, 2–4 times per week, only when you feel resourced
• If healing leaves you feeling worse, scattered, or deregulated, it’s a sign the dosage is too high

Too much processing can overwhelm, while too little can leave chronic stress unresolved. The goal is more capacity, not less.

The Missing Ingredient: Loving Kindness

Whether practicing containment or healing, one element is essential: loving kindness.

• Containment without kindness can feel like self-abandonment
• Healing without kindness can feel like pressure

Adding compassion creates safety in the nervous system and builds inner trust with your parts. Your body and mind learn they don’t have to escalate to be heard, allowing you to integrate experiences with care.

Healing + Presence = Inner Security

When your inner relationship is secure, loving, and trustworthy, something profound happens:

• You stop outsourcing your safety to others
• You navigate relationships without guilt or collapse
• Boundaries become clearer and less emotionally charged
• Your nervous system learns it can be calm and truthful simultaneously

In short, healing + presence = deep integration, which ripples outward to your families, communities, and the world.

Practical Takeaway

Check in with yourself:

1. Notice a sensation, thought, or emotional signal.
2. Ask: “Do I have capacity to engage now, or do I need rest?”
3. If rest is needed, contain with kindness: “I am here. We’ll come back later.”
4. If capacity exists, engage briefly, asking: “What is this asking me to know?”
5. Always close with gratitude and return to presence.

Healing isn’t about doing more—it’s about doing what’s right for your system in the moment.

Go Deeper with My Work

If this resonates, you can explore these practices more fully in my book:

📖 The Divine Within: Healing Ourselves to Heal the World

Available at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Powell’s Books, and Walmart, or learn more about my approach, offerings, and online courses at www.blossomingheartwellness.com.

Your nervous system deserves care, attention, and kindness. When you learn to listen and respond to it, healing becomes natural, and your inner and outer worlds transform. 🌿

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