The Truth About Vibration: Why Your Trauma Is Not Your Fault

Untangling a Dangerous Spiritual Myth

There is a widespread idea in spiritual spaces that your “vibration” determines everything that happens to you — and that if something painful occurs, you must have somehow attracted it.
This belief is not only inaccurate, it is spiritually immature and deeply harmful. It mirrors purity culture, blames trauma survivors, and disconnects us from compassion.

In this blog, we are returning to the real meaning of vibration — one rooted in nervous system healing, emotional maturity, co-creation, and embodied responsibility rather than self-blame.

‍

The Misinterpretation—Where Spirituality Gets It Wrong

Many spiritual teachings reduce vibration to a moral ranking system:

• High vibration = good
• Low vibration = bad
• Good things happen to high-vibe people
• Bad things happen to low-vibe people

But this is not spirituality.
This is purity culture with crystals.

When trauma survivors hear ideas like “you attracted this,” they internalize shame, blame, and a false sense of spiritual failure. This is harmful on every level — psychologically, spiritually, and neurologically.

What Vibration Actually Means

When mystics talk about vibration, they are referring to your physiological and emotional state, not your moral worth.

Vibration is influenced by:

• Your nervous system regulation
• Your emotional tone
• Your openness versus contraction
• Your presence
• Your connection to compassion and self-awareness

A person with trauma is not low vibration — they are carrying wounds that shaped their physiology.
A healed person isn’t “better”; they are simply regulated.

Vibration is a state, not a score.

You Don’t Create Alone — You Co-Create

The idea that you “create your entire reality” is a misunderstanding of ancient mystic teachings.

The truth:
You do not create alone. You create within a field of other beings, each with their own choices, wounds, and free will.

Even Yeshua (Jesus) did not control the entire reality around him — he was interacting with a collective human field.

This means:

• You can be healed and still meet someone who isn’t
• You can be regulated and still face external chaos
• You can be centered and still be hurt by others’ wounds

This is not a failure.
This is life in a shared ecosystem.

Your Vibration Shapes Your Interpretation, Not Every Event

Your vibration does not prevent suffering — it transforms your relationship to suffering.

A regulated, healed state allows you to:

• Recover faster
• Respond instead of react
• Discern instead of absorb
• Hold boundaries without guilt
• Avoid repeating old patterns
• Remain rooted in your worth

Vibration influences your inner reality first, and your outer reality second.

What Raising Your Vibration Truly Means

Raising your vibration is not about avoiding pain or bypassing your trauma.
Real healing requires:

• Feeling what was denied
• Naming what was avoided
• Unlearning shame
• Returning to alignment when you lose it
• Choosing love with boundaries rather than fear

High vibration means your consciousness is capable of responding from love — not collapsing into fear, guilt, or self-blame.

It leads to:

• Clear boundaries
• Healthy relationships
• Emotional maturity
• Discernment without judgment
• Respect for yourself and others
• Recognition that all beings are sacred

This is the real spiritual path.

Contraction vs. Expansion — A Test of Spiritual Truth

One simple way to know whether a teaching is true for you:
Does it create contraction or expansion?

Contraction feels like:

• Tight chest
• Shame
• Self-blame
• Fear of doing it wrong
• Feeling fundamentally flawed

Expansion feels like:

• More breath
• Warmth
• Openness
• Courage
• Compassion
• Connection

Real spiritual truth leads to expansion — not fear, shrinking, or shame.

Putting This Into Practice

Try this reflection:

1. Bring awareness to your heart and low belly.
2. Think of teachings that blamed you for your trauma or suffering.
3. Notice: Do you tighten, collapse, or constrict?
4. Then repeat a compassionate truth:
   • “I co-create with the divine.”
   • “I am inherently worthy.”
   • “I can respond from healing.”

Your body will show you the difference.

Your body is a tuning fork for spiritual integrity.

A Final Word of Compassion

Your vibration does play a role in your experience — not because you deserve punishment or reward, but because your level of healing shapes your inner reality.

You are not to blame for what happened to you.
You are empowered in how you heal, respond, and move forward.

We are co-creating reality together, and your healing contributes to the healing of all.

Closing Invitation

If this teaching resonates, I invite you to explore my book:
The Divine Within: Healing Ourselves to Heal the World
— a compassionate guide to understanding your nervous system, your consciousness, and the world we are co-creating.

You are worthy.
You are loved.
You are safe to heal.

‍