How to Recognize and Heal Emotional Roadblocks

Are You Stuck in Your Old Ways?

If you’ve ever felt like the way you express yourself or try to get your needs met keeps backfiring, it might be a sign that something inside you needs healing. In this post, I want to deepen the conversation on roadblocks—what they are and how to recognize them.

What Is a Roadblock?

A roadblock is any part of yourself—or the collective divine—that prevents you from meeting your basic needs or allowing others to meet theirs. In a previous video, I discussed what these basic needs are. They generally include:

• Safety and security
• Emotional intimacy
• Autonomy
• Identity
• Respect
• Psychological safety
• Self-actualization
• The ability to express yourself and contribute to the whole

How Do You Know You Have a Roadblock?

One sign is rigidity. If you’re holding tightly to a strong opinion and can’t see someone else’s perspective, that’s a roadblock. When you’re connected to your inner compass, you understand that everyone is at their own level of awareness and self-discovery. If you’re unwilling to question your own beliefs or consider their impact on others, that’s another sign of a block within yourself.

Another indicator is discomfort in your body. If something someone says or does—or something you say or do—creates anxiety, tension, or disharmony inside you, that’s worth exploring. It might be a sign that you've tapped into something in the collective, in someone else, or within yourself that needs attention.

Returning to Your Inner Compass

When you feel calm, compassionate, curious, and collaborative, you’re in alignment with your inner compass. In that state, you can recognize that others know what’s best for themselves just as you know what’s best for you. It becomes possible to collaborate in a way that honors each person’s autonomy and free will.

That doesn’t mean allowing others to mistreat you or violate your boundaries. If someone else believes that taking your autonomy is what’s best for them, they are also acting from a roadblock. In those cases, it’s essential to set boundaries and step away if needed, especially for your safety.

What Healing Can Look Like

Healing doesn’t mean you agree with everyone or abandon your values. It means becoming more self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and open to growth. A person who has developed through their stages of healing is often more compassionate, more collaborative, and more accepting of differences.

You might not agree with my view of what a healed state looks like—and that’s okay. But if you find yourself feeling uncomfortable with the idea, I invite you to get curious about why. And if you believe a healed state looks different, I invite you to reflect on what that means to you.